I just wrote a post about shutting down my blog for good. After a long conversation with Jack, this is my conclusion and these are my feelings.
Blog Life: To me the blog world has many emotions. Let me try and explain; sometimes it feels like a huge "popularity contest" consisting of', "Look at the amazing things I have accomlished!" or, "Look at the incredible vacations we are taking!", and my favorite, "We are so blessed in every way possible!". Does anyone else feel this way? I am confused because it seems to me there is a "false reality" when it comes to The Blog. Don't get me wrong I love 'GOOD NEWS!!' I am the Queen of let me hear good news rather than bad, but sometimes it seems to go beyond just 'good news'. We always try and put our BeSt FooT forward, because we need to let everyone know that life is 'so good'. I felt like I was no longer up to the task of reading "perfect blogs" and I definitely didn't fit into the "perfect wife/mom blog" category. There are blogs that really do build me up and inspire me. I think there is an incredible support system for those who are willing to share hardships. But I think it can also be a place where people don't feel like what they are doing in their life is good enough. Let's face it we are human and we love to compare ourselves to each other. I am making new changes in my life for 2011 and on. I am cutting a lot of technology out of it. I don't like the gravitational pull that is attached to my chest pulling me towards the "computer" or "TV". I want to enjoy real life, my real life. When we feel constantly compelled to go online and surf, blog, facebook, and email it takes away moments we could be having with those we love. It also distracts us from what is going on immediately around us. Since when did our world become so connected (through Internet) and disconnected at the same time? There is a major "imbalance" and I'm not even saying there needs to be a balance at all. Life should consist of (in my book) 90% real living and 10% technology. I have decided I am only going online at night when my kids are in bed, and only for basic things. My focus needs to be on my family not on everyone else's. I am going to keep blogging but it is whenever I feel like I want to. Do I sound crazy? This post may seem like extreme but I am not writing it for me as much as I am for many others out there who feel the same way. I have been mulling this over in my mind for a week now and I finally feel like I am progressing into a good place with this. Over and out.
Monday, 10 January 2011
Good-bye Blogging....
Posted by Sarah at 14:54
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Amen Sista!!!!
I agree with you 100%. So many women feel bad about themselves because their life doesn't look as amazing as so-and-so's. I went through that phase myself, until I figured out how to come to terms with it and learned how to not care. And in turn I do blog less, I also just got a little bored of it. I also despise so many things about technology, it just sucks us all in. Good luck on your new goal, I know I have been happier spending less time on the internet, etc. Hopefully I will still be able to see what you guys are up to once and a while!
Power to you! I got rid of my facebook for simmilar reasons. I love my blog for journaling but could care less who reads it, and I don't read to many peoples blogs. Anyway. I'll miss your cute stories- so I'll just have to call you more and hear straight from you!
ps- We're still planning on watching your boys on Saturday!
I think I would be willing to bet that there are MANY who feel like you do (including me)!! Blogging often makes it hard to remember that everyone has issues and problems, even if they don't acknowledge it on a blog! And, even if they aren't currently being thrown under the bus, they will be sometime... that's what life is about! I don't think we were meant to cruise through life! Best to you and your family! You are, and always have been, great!
And I totally, totally agree with you on the connected, yet disconnected plague that we live in!
Good for you. If that is how you feel, then you shouldn't blog. I never thought people sounded perfect because, lets be honest, I know that doesn't exist. I guess maybe I shouldn't write so much about our "real" life. We are not perfect, nor is this awful trial we are going through. Luckily for me I have only felt supported through telling about our hardships, through people like you. It's nice to know people still can know what is going on and to pray for Lila. we need all the prayers we can get, from anybody. I will miss your updates. Hopefully you will keep it up a little bit.
I totally understand what you are saying. I hate when i am on the computer and turn and realize my kids are playing by themselves... hello... earth to mom!
BuT!! There are times when I really feel like i should blog... for one thing I am away from my family and i want all of them to know what we are up to...AND I love that I actually keep in contact with my friends that I probably wouldn't have. So please blog every once in a while... remember I cant just jump over to your house anymore to see all the adorable things your kids do. I totally miss that!
I totally hear ya about the technology thing. I felt the exact same way about facebook that you do about blogging. It seemed like it was just one big competition, so i said good-bye to facebook and have never looked back. I feel so much better too! My blog is totally boring, but i try and keep it up every once in a while because it is kind of like my journal. We have fun looking at it as a family! But like you i try and spend more time in the "here and now". Please blog every now and then so that we can keep up with you guys and see how big your cute kiddo's are getting. I know this is said way too much, but here's to one more time... we really should get together sometime! I think our boys would have fun, and it would be fun for our babies to meet each other. Think about it and let me know if you are ever up to it :) We are always up for a playdate :)
Well I have to say I so sad your not going to blog. It is the only way I see your cute family
I have to say I understand what your saying but I only blog for myself to document our life like a journal I don't care if no one was to read it it's just a good place to keep up with family and friends
About feeling like we don't measure up to others seemingly perfect lives I think that has to do with yourself and how you feel about yourself I have personally found great ideas for fhe and stuff to do with the kids from peoples seemingly perfect lives.
Anyway I'm sad I won't be able to keep up with your cute fam
This is Josh...I totally agree on a lot of your points about technology. Anything to excess becomes a distraction to the important things of life. I think you're off base on your blog opinion though. Most everybody uses their blog to journal their family experiences, which most people didn't keep a journal of their family life before internet blogs, so really its been a great record keeping tool. No one has a perfect life and there is no point in feeling you can't keep up with other peoples experiences they journal about. The grass will always seem greener on the other side if you look for it. We might as well all be depressed we can't be brad and angelina then. Close friends can argue opinions right? You and Jack are both great writers though and we will miss your writing.
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